The Mantram And The City

Meet Sarah, a YA who lives in San Francisco. Sarah shares the way the mantram helps her in day-to-day city living.

I enjoy living in San Francisco very much.  There are beautiful parks and interesting architecture, and I love the circles of friends and communities of which I am part.  Like any place, however, there are challenging parts of life here, too.  It can be draining to be surrounded by people, vehicles, and buildings whenever I go outside.  And having so many people in such a relatively small area sometimes feels chaotic and claustrophobic — I find myself feeling very close to people's problems, but not necessarily able to do much about them.  I've found that the mantram is a great answer to some of the difficulties of city living, from the deeply upsetting to the mildly annoying, and everything in between.

One of the things I find most distressing in my city is passing by people who are in need of help, and not being able to help them.  In some parts of the city, there are many people asking for money.  I sometimes will give a few dollars to people who ask, and I often buy snacks for people who are sitting outside grocery stores or share some of my own food, but these gestures don't solve problems of homelessness, health issues, and poverty.  Being able to consciously repeat the mantram for people who are asking me for things is something I can do in all situations, whether I engage directly with the person directly or not, and even if I see them from the window of the bus as I'm traveling on my way.  (I've also found a local organization that offers daily hospitality to homeless people that I am happy to support.)

In other situations where I observe people who seem to be having problems (like folks who have just gotten into fender benders, who are having arguments on their phone as they walk, or who simply look upset), I also use the mantram.  And in the cases when it's seemed appropriate for me to get involved with problems like this, saying the mantram has helped me to stay calm.  (If you were wondering, I almost never say it out loud.  I usually say it silently to myself, and I make a conscious effort to focus on the words.  You can find a much more thorough explanation of the mantram, as well as a list of mantrams suggested by Sri Easwaran here.)

One of my most common uses of the mantram is while waiting for the bus.  I don't have a car, and my major modes of transportation are walking and riding the bus.  And as any bus rider knows, riding the bus also means waiting for the bus.  

The bus reminds me to say my mantram. 

Rather than staring down the street and getting more and more annoyed (an old habit I still fall into sometimes) I try to use this time to breathe deeply and repeat my mantram.  

The outbound M offers me a big chance to say my mantram! Hmm... maybe the M stands for Mantram? 

Integrating the mantram into my daily life has many benefits.  I am much more relaxed and calm, even when the bus is delayed or I witness something upsetting.  Repeating the mantram as I walk or ride on the bus helps me to feel fresh when I've arrived at my destination.  And I've even found myself feeling more connected to other people I see on the street, allowing me to offer a sincere smile, friendly nod, or "Good morning."

Finally, I've recently noticed that my capacity to see details has been enhanced, which is closely related to slowing down.  I walk a very similar route every weeknight after I get off the bus on my way home, and the other day I glanced down to see this flower growing out of a crack in the sidewalk.  

A cheery reward for slowing down! 

It made me so happy to see it!  A few days later I looked for it again and it was gone, but I was glad to have noticed it when I did. 

I know that the mantram can also be helpful to you, whether you are a fellow city dweller or not.  Best wishes to you, from the city of St. Francis.

A Passage For July

Greetings from your YA Blog Team! This week marks the beginning of our summer programs for YAs and we couldn't be happier to greet the YAs joining us this month at our retreat house in Northern California.

However, we also find ourselves a wee bit busy, and our to-do lists a wee bit full...

We'll be back next week with more tips, stories, and inspiration from our fellow YA passage meditators, but we didn't want to leave you empty handed this week!

Today we want to share a passage with you, copied out below, "If you want to draw near to God" by Abu Sa'id. We memorized this one back in December at a Bay Area YA Satsang Day (scroll down to see pictures here), and have found it really resonating with us these days.  

Even if you can't join us physically this month, we'd love to hear from you and we invite you to contribute to making this month special. Here are two ways you can join in:

1. Share in the comments below your favorite passage, or a passage that's really jumping out at you these days (you can find many passages online here).
2. If you've got this passage memorized, put it in the rotation for the month of July! If you haven't got it memorized - we say go for it! 

All the best from your Northern California YA Blog Team! 

If You Want to Draw Near to God - Abu Sa'id 

If you wish to draw near to God, 
Seek him in the hearts of those around you.
Speak well of all, present or absent.
If you would be a light for others,
Be like the sun: show the same face to all.
To bring joy to a single heart is better
Than building countless shrines for worship;
To capture one heart through kindness is better
Than setting a thousand free.
This is the true lover of God, 
Who lives with others, 
Rises and eats and sleeps like others, 
Gives and takes in the bazaar,
Yet never forgets God even for a moment.

 

A Week's Worth Of Successes

Ever wonder what a “successful” week of practicing passage meditation and the other points looks like? We did, so we asked YAs from our online, international fellowship group – the YA eSatsang – to share a success they’ve had over the last week. Enjoy these everyday stories about “the little things” that make passage meditation so powerful. 

Claire from Toronto, Canada

A few days ago I was helping a client with some paperwork, and was starting to feel a bit frustrated because some of her answers to my questions seemed vague or inconsistent, and she didn't seem to be making much effort to understand the things I was trying to explain to her.  Despite myself, I could hear a slight edge creeping into my voice as I tried to explain something AGAIN.  Then the client told me that her mother had died two weeks before, and since then she'd found it really hard to concentrate on anything.  Imagine my remorse.  It was one of those times when life just holds up a little sign in front of your face saying "Slow Down!  Put Others First!"  I let the paperwork go for a moment and took some time to listen to her talk about her mum and how she had been feeling.  She seemed more relaxed by the time she left, and I felt I had learned a valuable lesson.  And we had managed to finish the paperwork too!

Anand from Bangalore, India

It's been my wish for a long time that I read out and share spiritual literature with my family. I'm with my parents this week, and my mother and I spend an hour early in the morning reading the Bhagavatham which is the story of the Lord. It is a wonderful feeling to share spiritual reading, and the sweetness of the words seems to get multiplied over. I feel blessed for this to have happened at this time.

Lisa from San Francisco, California

It's actually been kind of hard to examine the past week and see where my successes have been, I'm much better at seeing growth over a long time period when it's more dramatic. I guess that's what makes this a good exercise!

I work at an education start-up company and this past week we had our first ever staff retreat and for some legitimate, and some selfish, reasons I was NOT excited. I was stewing over my discontent during my long drive to the retreat site and getting increasingly and increasingly grumpy. As I waited for the rest of the team to show up enough mantrams were bouncing around in my mind that I noticed how agitated I was. I spent a few moments repeating my mantram intentionally and was able to shift my focus from myself and make my goal to give one-pointed attention to my co-workers. The result? It was a great day! Certainly not perfect, and certainly not without moments of frustration, but I was able to get to know my co-workers and bosses better and can already see the benefits of the day we spent together! Good thing I got myself out of the grumps!

Here are some photos from the staff hike, the view at the end was certainly nothing to complain about!

Drew from Honolulu, Hawaii

During the past week our family friend visited for several days.  I grew up an only child and am accustomed to having a lot of alone time, so it can be a challenge for me to continually be around people.  But, at times when I might rather be alone, I did my best to put our friend first and spend time with her. I also relied on other points of the eight-point program, notably the mantram and one-pointed attention, to help me do this and be more fully present.  As a result, I felt that the experience helped me “rub off some of my rough edges,” and fostered a new depth in my relationship with our friend.

Drew (right) at a recent visit with two YAs from California.

 Kate from Vancouver, B.C., Canada

I've been super busy these days. It means I'm not getting as much sleep as I need, so staying alert in meditation in the morning has been a challenge for the past while. I've been feeling down about that. 

On the bright side, I have managed to stick to reading or listening for 5 minutes to Easwaran for inspiration after meditation. Just yesterday, I read a short passage from the Summer BMCM Journal which addresses going deeper in meditation. This small excerpt by Easwaran lifted me right up out of my doldrums, and is continuing to provide inspiration during this busy time: 

Surprisingly, it is not during meditation that you make progress in meditation; it is during the rest of the day. What you do in meditation is get the power, install the dynamo; the actual work is done after you open your eyes, get up, and go out into the world...

That is why I say that it’s not enough if you meditate regularly or longer than half an hour. The rest of your day must facilitate that meditation. If you have a good meditation in the morning and then yield to compulsive urges, dwell on yourself, or get self-willed or angry, you are undoing all the work you did that morning in meditation.

On the other hand, if you go on doing your best to follow the rest of this eight-point program throughout the day, not only are you going to have a better meditation on the following day, you are beginning to solve your problems and even to help other people solve theirs. When you’re able to do your job with cheerful concentration, when you can give and take when things go wrong, when you’re working under pressure and are able to remain kind, you’re helping your meditation immensely. So try to remember every day that you are participating in meditation even at breakfast, at work, at school, in the garden, everywhere.

Alexandra from Hamburg, Germany

Several e-mails from eSatsang, blog posts and comments during phone satsang have – finally! – inspired me to memorize a new meditation passage last week. 

It had been far too long since I memorized a new passage. For some reason, I have a hard time motivating myself to learn passages by heart. I love my "old" passages dearly, but according to Easwaran it is important to not let them grow stale, so a new passage from time to time is crucial. 

Many thanks to all the friends in eSatsang for your support, motivation and inspiration! 

Carlos from Concord, California

A week ago, I was in a difficult situation in which I gave and gave, apparently without getting anything in return. The more I gave, the fiercer the conviction grew that I could give more. I didn't receive anything, I gave more. I didn't receive anything, I gave more. My success is realizing, a little more, that I can give value to any situation, rather than the situation dictating what value I see.

Susana from North Hollywood, California

I have been using Sri Easwaran's eight-point program consistently for a little more than a year now. When I started, I was living with my older sister but this last month I was given the opportunity to move back in with my parents and my younger brother. Not only that, the second week back home I started working as a full-time nanny for two young boys, ages 2 and 3.

What an adjustment, and all in a couple of weeks! I am so thankful for my meditation practice and especially my mantram which have helped me settle down fairly easily into my new routine. When I lived with my sister, she was the only person I could consistently practice putting first. Now at home and at work, I have countless opportunities. My parents are very involved with their church and they have so many friends.

For the past fours years, I have been struggling with an anxiety disorder which pretty much made me completely antisocial. Since starting the eight-point program though, I'm starting to really enjoy being around people. I especially like going with my parents to a weekly prayer meeting. It is a great opportunity to practice being social again and putting others first. I try my hardest to listen one-pointedly and I feel how this has made me enjoy people's stories so much more. I can empathize and relate in a way I never experienced before and I know now a lot of my anxiety around people before was due to an overwhelming feeling of separateness. I am really so thankful for Sri Easwaran and his teachings and this community. Everyday I continue to turn my life completely around and reveal a little bit more of my truest Self.

Sagar from Stockton, California

I have made progress with training the senses in eating more vegetables each day, especially by including salad on a daily basis and sautéing vegetables to be used as a snack or alongside breakfast.  I really like Sri Easwaran's recommendations to adopt a more nutritious diet based on what the body needs and to have regular vigorous exercise which help prevents many chronic diseases.

Saskia from Tomales, California

I recently read this commentary by Easwaran from his book Take Your Time: 

Whatever job you are engaged in, I would say, concentrate on it completely. Give it your very best. That kind of focus will lift the burden from your shoulders, and you will find yourself doing much better work while enjoying it more.

This week, I've had some tasks at work which are administrative and routine, for example, preparing for meetings and writing minutes; and other projects which are much more interesting and creative. And, just like everyone else, there are constant emails coming into my inbox which provide lots of potential distractions! 

My small successes this week are that I've put more effort into doing what's most important first, even if my mind protests, and finished up a project before looking at emails. Also, I've been repeating my mantram more before sending and reading emails, and putting more effort into concentrating on whatever is happening. I've definitely experienced the result Easwaran promises: better work, more enjoyment, and more energy.  

Jan from Chocorua, New Hampshire

A simple example of slowing down. A couple days ago I was given the opportunity to call someone to ask what time they were coming to visit. My first thought was to postpone this until the next day. I had, however, been taking brief daily notes of my progress with slowing down. Realizing that slowing down often means doing things without delay, I called them right away. A few more small incidents like that leading up to their visit, and the whole family gathering ran a bit smoother than last year.