Sharing Passage Meditation

This week we hear from Hasmita, living in Mumbai, India. Hasmita shares how she is building spiritual fellowship by sharing passage meditation with her friends.

Hasmita writes about sharing a recording of an hour-long introductory webinar, which you can watch for free on YouTube.

Hi, I'm writing to share about how I set up a little get-together to introduce passage meditation to a few of my friends in Mumbai, India.

Spiritual fellowship is something I missed very much when I started practicing the 8-point program (8PP) a few years ago because nobody I knew had heard of Eknath Easwaran. I gradually discovered that there is a satsang in Chennai, but didn’t know if it was functional. By the time I discovered that it was, 1.5 years went by. My fellowship meanwhile came from Easwaran’s books, as well as books on the mystics he recommended.

An Urge to Share
Having discovered by my experience what a priceless treasure this practice is, I have a great desire to share it with anyone who’s sincerely interested. I posted quotes of Sri Easwaran on my social media page and shared a little about the value of his program with a few family members. Slowly, friends and family have come to be familiar with his name. My sister took up passage meditation, so we have informal satsang now and then. I also participate in programs set up by the BMCM, including the eSatsang—so that, through these avenues, I have gained valuable spiritual fellowship.

In November last year, I went finally to Chennai to meet the meditators there at a day-long retreat. After that, my interest to share was rekindled. The coordinator there asked me to consider setting up a satsang in Mumbai, but that has seemed too big, especially for a sprawling, crowded city like Mumbai. Still, I began to think about introducing passage meditation to a few friends.

I wasn’t sure whether to give this thought attention or not. I examined the idea to see if ego played much of a role in it, as I try to follow what Swami Ramdas says in the passage “Unshakeable Faith” (God Makes the Rivers to Flow pg. 157) to "make no plans". After waiting several days and observing that ego did not contaminate the idea, I began to give it more attention, then eventually shared it with the BMCM. They were supportive and gave me some suggestions and helpful handout files.

Plan and Invitations
A spiritual friend's suggestion was great: to use the recording of a webinar available on YouTube, because it answers many common questions beautifully, and that way, the instructions would come from the BMCM, rather than from me bumbling about or mis-communicating anything. A plan began to form, to set up the meeting for an hour and a half—an introduction for about 15 minutes, the 1-hour webinar, and 15 minutes of Q&A.

I thought of whom I'd call, and came up with a list of 7 possible people, of which two were the teen/young adult (YA) children of my friends. I selected the people carefully—those I felt were open minded to explore something like this, who had the discipline/enthusiasm/steadiness to get into it, and who were in touch with their inner selves. Some of them were also familiar with Sri Easwaran through my social media posts and a shared Easwaran book. I messaged them asking if they'd be interested in attending a session at my home on meditation the way Sri Easwaran taught it. Four of them said they'd come, including one YA.

Anxiety Comes Calling
Until this point, I had managed to keep my ideas at bay, telling myself there was time yet, and to work with one-pointed attention on my daily tasks. As the meeting date neared, though, I realized I'd have to start organizing whatever was required. One of the BMCM Programs team members agreed to a call to discuss. During the call and after, my mind got excited, throwing up ideas, concerns, what-ifs of all sorts.

What if only 1 person actually turns up? I answered myself, that's good, too.

What if nobody turns up? Answer: It’s okay, you would have given the idea a try!

What if I say something to offend someone's religious beliefs! Answer: The Lord will help. Trust yourself and go with it.

What do I say to start the session? Should I serve refreshments or would they be a distraction?

Questions about the future came up—what if this introduction led to setting up a regular satsang: could I handle a weekly meeting along with my other regular commitments? What if the group eventually grew? I wouldn't have the space at home to accommodate them. I'm such a private person, would I be able to handle the social aspect of regular satsang meetings?

These and many more thoughts started twisting me into anxiety. After working on slowing down, one-pointed attention, and many mantrams, I decided to take only one step at a time—as things came up, surely the Lord would help. If I dwelled on these things I'd never be able to do much. In fact, even my meditation practice came about by simply doing it one day at a time, never thinking about sustaining it, which brings pressure to an anxiety-prone person like me.

Getting into Action
Thanks to the mantram, I was able to release the anxious energy into getting things done for the event. I got printouts of the handout sheets, sent the friends two short passages—“Let Nothing Upset You” by St Teresa of Avila, and “Invocations” from the Upanishads (“May the Lord of Love protect us”)—telling them they could memorize either one before they came, though it wasn't necessary. I also printed out the passages in large font.

I downloaded the webinar onto a thumb drive, checked that it worked on the TV, where I planned to play it, and also watched it, which helped me recall the points it covered. I was happy to see that everything was clearly explained on it, so I wouldn’t need to explain the actual method or benefits and the like.

The Session
The day arrived. I re-checked the thumb drive and printouts; got some snacks ready; put the cats in another room, fed and happy. I instructed my little assistant, my daughter, to come in quietly now and then and take photos of the session, so the pics accompanying this post are by her.

The first friend arrived a few minutes before 5 pm, perfectly on time. We talked while we waited for the others. Fifteen minutes later another friend, with her YA daughter arrived. Three were here, and since it was 20 minutes after the starting time I decided to start, so that the ending didn't get too delayed for them. The last friend arrived by the end of the first sentence, so everyone was there.

I did the introduction—a little about how I got started with the practice myself, and a story to illustrate how I found it useful in my life. Then all of us settled down to watch the webinar together.

Watching the webinar together.

I paused it now and then when audience interaction is requested on the webinar, and interacted with the friends. When it was time for the sample 5-minute meditation, I told them they could use the passage they may have memorized, or else do the cheat (looking at one line, closing eyes and going over it slowly, etc.). It was good to see that most people had memorized a passage. One friend had memorized both! So they were able to use this.

We did the sample meditation together, some sitting on the floor, some staying on the sofa. The atmosphere seemed to change after that. I could sense an increase in their comfort participating in this. We continued to sit where we were and watched the rest of the webinar.

When it was coming to an end, I served snacks and after the webinar, we began to chat, and everyone reflected on what they’d heard. One friend was drawn to the slowing down point. She recalled how she used to be the go-to person for calming her friends in college, but after marriage and kids, she'd become speeded up. She said she'd like to work on slowing down. Another friend spoke of putting others first, how she had done this and found it hugely helpful in her life. The third friend said she used to use a different kind of meditation decades ago and found it useful but the practice had tapered off in a few months. Her daughter, the YA, had been urging her mom to take up meditation again. In fact, this friend was intrigued about why I had chosen to call her for this session because we’d never spoken about anything spiritual before, yet she herself had been considering returning to meditation!

I mentioned the resources printed out for them on where to get further info should they choose to explore further, and that they could do the online course on the website, or that I could conduct an in-person course guided by the BMCM if they were interested. No one committed to any of these right away.

Impact and Developments
Everyone appreciated the session, which was gracious of them, since I'd called them quite out of the blue. One friend called me shortly after leaving, and described how she'd immediately practiced slowing down when she stepped out of the session. Her usual tendency is to hurry up to get back home, she said, worrying her daughter would be alone and bored, but she stopped that thought and reminded herself that her husband had been with their daughter for the last couple hours, so where was the need to hurry? She walked home slowly, observing the scenes on the street, appreciating being there at that time of day when she would be normally busy with her own routine. She said she felt wonderful and light.

A few days later, the YA's mother said she had tried meditating for 2 days, and that she hoped to try again at a different time of day to make it work better. One friend’s son has his board exams next month, so she will probably give this thought only after the stress of the exams is over. She, too, had a positive outlook, saying she would *like* to try it and see how it goes, even if she tried and stopped and then took it up again a year later. Absolutely!

In a surprise development, when I went to a get-together a week after the session, I met a friend I hadn't been in touch with for a while; she turned out to be an eager seeker actively looking for a way to explore her spiritual side! I called up the next day and explained the 8PP to her, and how it could help her work toward the goals she had mentioned. She went to the website the same day, read about the method, and started a 15-minute meditation practice the very next morning, on the Prayer of St Francis! From what I hear, she has been practicing every day for more than a week when I write this.

My instinct is to get elated with such news—one more sincere spiritual aspirant who can begin to experience truth, love, and peace, and contribute to it in the world! But I turn my attention away from the excitement so that I may allow each person to grow at their own pace instead of putting pressure on them with my enthusiasm. Still, I’m stabbed by impatience now and then wondering if it’ll stick, if they’re really going to be into it, so that we can meet for satsang regularly some day soon.

I heard again recently from the friend who had immediately implemented slowing down—she has been practicing passage meditation daily for 10 minutes for the last couple of weeks or more! I gently encouraged her to build it up gradually to 30 minutes so that she can get the full benefit of meditation.

Yet another new friend came over yesterday and expressed interest in meditation and I explained the 8PP and benefits. She said she’d like to attend if I conduct another session in future.

From the time the idea germinated in my mind to the developments a month later, quite a bit has happened. Where it will lead to: another intro session? the in-person course? regular satsang? No idea, nor do I want to think about it. As I mentioned, I’ve been trying to take one day at a time, from the hymn I learnt in school, “One Day At a Time”, so I hope to continue doing so. Stay in the present, practice the eight points, do what I need to do minute to minute and by the hour. What will come, will come, and the Lord will give me whatever is required to handle it. For now, I am grateful for the way things are going and wish my newly meditating friends all peace, joy, and love!

Meditation on a spiritual text, or passage, is a powerful, universal method for training your mind. Learn how it works, why it works, and what it can do for you. This "Learn to Meditate" webinar introduces you to Passage Meditation, a complete spiritual practice developed by Eknath Easwaran to train your mind and find a life that fulfills.

A Work In Progress

This week we share a post from Steve, a passage meditator living in Santa Rosa, California. In this post Steve shares how he leverages his life-long love of sweets to build up his willpower.

I like sweets! Always have.

While growing up, breakfast was a sugary dry cereal, lunch always concluded with cookies and dinner wasn’t over till ice cream or something similar had been enjoyed.

The pattern continued through my adult life. The entrees became healthier, but the desserts remained ever present.

Since becoming a student of EE, things have changed. I learned that “training the senses” is one of the eight points and critical to the larger process of taming self-will. So now I try to keep sweets out of the house. I (almost!) always drive past frozen yogurt shops without stopping. Avoidance of ice cream - my very favorite treat - while shopping at the grocery store is still sometimes difficult, but I (almost!) always manage. Rigorously controlling my own environment has yielded enormous gains.

But alas, the task becomes more difficult during the holidays, especially since my wife and I now live in a senior community, where we’ve joined many groups (all of which have holiday parties) and gained many wonderful friends (who also have holiday parties). Everywhere I go, it seems that something terribly attractive and very, very available is staring me in the face.

My wife and I at the Boomers Club Mardi Gras Party

The holidays also bring frequent travel to see family. Out of my normal routine, I find it tough to deny myself “comfort” food, especially if prepared with love by a relative.

Of course, I know this problem is not unique to me. “Lose weight” and “eat healthier” must be very high on the list of the most common New Year’s resolutions! For me, however, it’s become a year-long struggle as my age advances and my metabolism slows.

So, what to do?

What to do?

As usual, the eight-point program holds my salvation. In particular, the first four points (meditation, mantram, slowing down, one-pointed attention) are the ones I call on. I note the patterns in my life that tend to create problems and plan my use of these four “points” carefully.

My “food samskaras” (negative patterns associated with food) include:

• Eating with less discrimination when I'm with friends and food is readily available (as during the holidays)
• Eating with less discrimination when I'm feeling down
• Craving more sweets later in the day if I eat sweets early in the day
• Eating while doing other things (particularly reading) if I'm in a hurry
• Eating with less discrimination if I feel speeded up, which happens as the day goes on (particularly during the holidays)
• Thinking about (and enjoying in advance!) my next meal well before I need to

In addition to my morning meditation, I meditate in the late afternoon. Missing the second meditation of the day is easier when I’m away from home. But that second meditation often occurs at a time where I’ve gotten speeded up and desperately need slowing down. To keep this from occurring, I plan my day in advance and mindfully consider when and where that second meditation will happen. It’s useful for me to consider dinner well earned by the meditation prior.

My Salvation!

The mantram is most helpful to me just after eating a meal, when the craving for sweets peaks. At home, I’ll usually force myself to retire to a loveseat in the bedroom where I can read quietly or repeat the mantram while the urge for sweets dissolves. I call it “timing myself out,” after a practice used with our kids when they got a bit more amped up than was useful for them. In a short period of time, as I occupy my mind with something healthier than Ben and Jerry’s Peanut Butter Cup, I slow down, become more considered and the temptation invariably wanes.

The “time out” method borrows from the phrase “use your mighty arms to free the senses” (from the meditation passage entitled “Living in Wisdom” from the Gita). Rather, I’m using my mighty legs to escape from the world of “ten thousand things” (“Holding to the Constant,” Lao Tzu) to a place where time and temptation have less purchase. The idea is that if my legs can get my arms far enough from attractive foods, my arms can’t reach anything unhealthy! I’m not always successful, of course, but I know that, when the strategies are employed, they inevitably work.

The “Time Out” Sofa

The "Time Out" Sofa

Slowing down has always been essential for me. When I think, speak and act slowly, the space between thoughts opens up and I gain the needed perspective and time to make good choices.

Over the years, I’ve painstakingly noted those situations in which I tend to speed up (talking on the phone, interacting with people at parties, working on the computer, putting too many activities into one day) and work hard to avoid them. Where they can’t be avoided, I time myself out after each in order to return to the baseline slowness I feel after finishing meditation, completing an absorbing task or exiting from an extended mantramming period.

My best meals are those I eat by myself, with one-pointed attention to each bite. Savoring the flavor of my food, often with my eyes closed, returns the satisfaction I’m “losing” when I don’t eat sweets. While enjoying the company of others along with my food, I force myself to eat slowly and try to notice when the speeding up occurs.

As the years have passed, I’ve realized that, for me, successful eight-point-program-style eating means using EE’s tools to make good decisions at those key moments when I’m tempted by food. Thankfully, there are not many of these moments. I alert myself in advance prior to going into a grocery store, a restaurant, a friend’s home for dinner, or a party that I am about to be tested. I remind myself of the import of my choices, why I’ve resolved to make them and what the benefits will be.

Above all, I know that I’m forming good habits when I make the right decisions at those moments where I’m tested. In addition to displacing the negative food samskaras, the stronger will I’m building helps me better focus on undesirable tasks and stay the course on long-term goals I’ve set for myself. My entire life has been touched in a positive way by this increase in will power.

Like life, it’s a work in progress!

Eknath Easwaran: Invitation to a Journey

This week we bring you an excerpt from the afterword in Passage Meditation by Eknath Easwaran. Here Easwaran shares the wonder and and adventure of the spiritual life, inspiring us to take up the practice of meditation.

Not long ago, a young forty-foot humpback whale on his way to Alaska became enticed by the lure of San Francisco. He veered off course into the bay, and once inside, instead of deciding he had made a wrong turn and retracing his wake, he chose to push on toward Sacramento. By the time I learned of his plight, he had worked his way into fresh waters and got trapped in the shallows of the Sacramento River Delta – a most uncongenial environment for any salt-water creature, but practically a bathtub for one used to thousands of miles of open sea.

Humphrey, as reporters dubbed him, immediately became a media sensation. Every day, news services carried updates on his predicament around the world, while hundreds of whale lovers flocked to San Francisco to help the Coast Guard try to rescue him. But Humphrey just kept swimming up blind alleys.

Finally someone hit on the idea of luring him back to the sea by the call of recorded whale songs. Humphrey began leaping joyfully, splashing great sheets of water to the delight of spectators, and churned toward the open ocean at a good thirty miles an hour. Traffic on the Golden Gate Bridge backed up in both directions as fans got out of their cars to crowd at the rails and cheer. They paid handsome fines, but as one woman told reporters, “It was worth every penny.”

Something in all of us cheers when a captive creature breaks free. We are born for freedom, even if we don’t understand what that means or how to find it. Somehow we sense that we are not meant to spend our lives in the shallows of pleasure and profit. We are made for vast spaces, to reach beyond boundaries until, as an English mystic put it, we are “clothed with the heavens and crowned with the stars” – born with intimations of a potential much, much grander than anything we can dream of in the day-to-day world.

While Humphrey’s story was unfolding in the daily news, we human viewers had the advantage of a higher dimension. We could look at maps, watch aerial views on TV, and see the scene whole: the narrow confines of the river delta, the broader bay, the narrow passage to the sea that Humphrey needed to find. To us it seemed so simple what to do. But Humphrey had no access to that higher view. All he could have known was that an interesting diversion had turned into a trap. It’s easy to imagine his panic as he found himself alone and boxed in, with no sense of where to turn for help from a situation he could not understand.

That is how I felt when I discovered meditation: as if I had been spending my life cramped indoors and just discovered the real world. Imagine living in one little room all your life! You would forget what the outdoors was like. Gradually you would come to believe there is no such thing; only your room is real. That’s why I identified with Humphrey escaping into the sea. Early every morning, while the rest of the world slept, I would open the door of consciousness in meditation, slip inside, and set about exploring the world within – a world I was making my own.

I like to imagine Humphrey free at last, charging out through the Golden Gate deaf to the cheers of earthbound creatures on the bridge above, into the open sea where he belonged. There’s not much to the continental shelf in northern California, and whales swim fast. Within a few minutes he would have been in mile-deep waters again, with half a planet of open ocean to roam in as he pleased.

Then, free to go wherever he chose, he must instead have felt a silent command: “North. Go north. Go home.” No details, no map, no companions, no guide, just a direction and a desire in response to an overriding imperative from within: go home. It is very much like that on the journey of meditation too.

Once you turn inward, the words of the passages urge you forward in response to a summons from the very depths of the heart. This need to return to the source of our being is nothing less than an evolutionary imperative – the drive to realize our full human potential. As Meister Eckhart says, “Whether you like it or not, whether you know it or not, secretly Nature seeks and hunts and tries to ferret out the track in which God may be found.” Something deep within us must find expression beyond the plane of pleasure and profit; that is our glory as human beings.

Only from a higher level than physical existence can we understand this deep need to find our purpose and our place in life. Because this dimension is as real as the physical – nearer to us even than the body, as the Sufis say – we cannot help living in two worlds, the material and the spiritual. To live fully means being at home in both these realms, and that requires a way to bring the deep wisdom of the heart into daily life.

There are many reasons today why one might choose to meditate – health, concentration, reduced anxiety, deeper relationships, security, serenity, the creative resources for making a lasting contribution with your life. Meditation can help you attain all these goals – or, rather, it provides the path; you will need to do the traveling yourself.

But the path leads much, much farther – as far as you want to go. It opens onto a journey that is literally without end, since its goal is only the beginning of a fully human life. The journey holds challenges enough for the most daring adventurer, wonders and treasures that would make Marco Polo’s accounts of Cathay trivial by comparison. It is, without exaggeration, the adventure of a lifetime.